Your self confidence and self esteem come from within yourself, others and from your achievements. Low Self Esteem feeds on negative thoughts and negative comments others may make. This can cause you to lose confidence so it’s important to stop those negative thoughts if you want to build your self esteem.You need confidence to build relationships, be a parent, go to work, take up new challenges, improve yourself, be open to change and learn life skills. Self confidence goes hand in hand with self esteem because you need both in order to face the challenges of life. Raising your self confidence will improve your life as well as the lives around you. Self Esteem is the key to your happiness and overall well being. Here are a few tips to help you boost both your esteem and confidence.
PLEASE YOURSELF BEFORE OTHERS: I know for many of you this may sound foreign because it certainly was against my everyday way of thinking but when you have low self esteem you’re an exception to this rule. You need to put yourself first. Remember that your needs are just as important as someone else’s. Start making a list of your wants and desires. Put it on paper so you can see them daily.
BE YOURSELF: Don’t try to be like someone else. You are unique. There is no one in this world like you. Comparing yourself to others feeds negatively into your self esteem because often times you will look at someone else and you think they are better than you which causes you to feel worse about yourself. Make a list of your good qualities and when you’re feeling down take a look at that list.
DON’T TAKE LIFE AND YOU SO SERIOUSLY: Give yourself a break. Everyone falls. Everyone fails. Failure simply means that you haven’t succeeded YET! Without failure, you would not appreciate the successes. Failing is a sign that you are growing and learning so the more failures you experience, the stronger you will become as a person and consequently your self confidence and self esteem will continue to grow.
FOCUS ON YOUR NEEDS AND WANTS: You deserve to live the life you desire and there is nothing selfish about that. As you learn to pay attention to yourself and your desires, your self worth and confidence naturally boosts.
CELEBRATE YOUR SUCCESSES: Reward yourself when you accomplish goals and succeed. Make a list of your achievements and continue to focus on the positive.
ELIMINATE THE CONSTANT NEED FOR APPROVAL FROM OTHERS:You must stop depending on others to make you feel good. Take time to reflect on “who you are” and make a list of your good qualities. You must see value in yourself first before others will.
GET SERIOUSLY RELAXED: Stop thinking and relax. Some people do this by occupying their mind or exercising. Hypnosis and meditation are really great relaxation techniques. : Treat yourself with the same respect that you would treat others. You wouldn’t tell a friend that she is awful or not good at something so why would you do it to you? Get into the habit of treating yourself nicely and over time you will believe it.
TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF: Plan to have some fun for yourself whether it’s your favorite hobby or enjoying a movie. Make sure you set time aside for YOU even if it’s paying attention to what you eat each day or catching up on sleep.
Self Confidence and Self Esteem will build as you learn how to navigate through uncomfortable circumstances and day to day events. Once you realize that you hold the power and control over your own life and thoughts and with the right skills, you can get through any life experience. Since your self esteem affects pretty much every facet of life, having a healthy realistic view of yourself is very important. You deserve to like and respect yourself and be happy and comfortable with who you are.